T’was way, way past midnight and we were sitting together when he clicked the remote and on screen came the movie about four senior men who were childhood friends. I looked at the clock and estimated that if we watch it, we’d finish the movie by sunrise. We watched anyway … and we had chips and drinks as we had our impromptu date
I loved the movie – it made me laugh a lot, something that I needed and now, looking back, truly appreciate. There were parts in the movie where I had to wipe a tear or two too, and it was okay…
The movie was about friendship … and about aging … and about life. In a nutshell these are the lessons I learned:
- Life is about making choices, and those choices determine the quality of our lives;
- In life we need friends – friends we can love and who will love us back, eccentricities and all;
- Who we choose to spend our life with matters so much that it determines whether we live a happy, fulfilling life or the contrary;
- It’s important to have a balanced life – work and fun, friends and family;
- Know what you want, and get it!
- Say what you feel
- Love more by expressing it
- Worry less
- Have fun
- We all will grow old, so it’s better to embrace it and grow old gracefully;
- There will be second chances, so when it presents itself, be sure you recognize it, and if you want it, don’t let it pass you by!
- Know when to open your mouth and know when to just keep it shut;
- It’s always okay to dream, to wish, to hope …
- Saying goodbye will always be hard, but there will be times in our lives we have to say it;
- Hello’s are always wonderful;
- Be not afraid to rediscover yourself, and reinvent yourself if you feel the need to;
- Follow your passion, and be not afraid to start all over again;
- Always say “I love you” and mean it!
Before I went to sleep, I looked at myself in the mirror and saw the laugh lines in my chubby face. I saw the crease in my forehead, and my “beginning to sag” chin. I saw my drooping eye bags … Yes, I am getting old.
Then I looked at the picture of my children on the table nearby … they are all grown now.
Then I looked at the man sleeping in my bed – he too has creases on his face, and his hair has begun to turn gray just like mine. We are slowly growing old together and I think that’s a blessing, to have someone to grow old with and to see that although my life is not perfect, it is good!
I have what matters most and I am grateful!