Written by Mommy Tina
This is the truth: Peer pressure becomes more powerful when young people, teenagers especially, are away from the influence of their parents or family. This generally happens when their defenses are weakened late at night during parties and most especially during sleepovers.
Based on studies, too many young people committed grievous mistakes, some for the first time, as part of a sleepover. These mistakes include watching pornographic materials, drinking alcoholic beverages, taking illegal drugs, sexual promiscuity, and some, an encounter with the local police due to public scandal (too much noise while partying) … all while spending the night away from home.
It is very likely that the youth, our teenage children, will not understand why we are making such a “big fuss’ out of it. They would say … “it’s just a sleepover”, or “my friend’s Dad and Mom will be there”, or “it’s an all girls’ sleepover or all boys’ sleepover and there’s no danger there”. The reasons can go on and on and on. What our children do not realize is that the danger with sleepovers does not only mean or include the company they keep, like their friends with whom they are spending the sleepover with. What about the other people in the house they are sleeping in? We’re not saying that the parents or the siblings are bad, but there’s really no assurance that they are not, unless you know them very well personally.
Then there’s the issue with young people not being afraid to try “new” things when adult supervision is nonexistent. Some do it out of fun, some out of curiosity. What the young people do not realize however is that these actions can have lasting negative effects on them. Some young people begin to develop an addiction to pornographic materials or violent video games. Some young people begin to be sexually active during these clandestine rendezvous with the opposite sex.
The bottom line is this: young people are more vulnerable to succumb to negative peer pressure when left alone in the company of people their age. Because of this, courageous parenting is much needed today from mothers and fathers who are not afraid to say no to their children. However, more than saying no, parents must put enough effort to explain to their children why, and do so lovingly. It is also very important to be firm in your decision when saying no. This means a “no” is a “no’, always. Once your children understand, they themselves will help their own friends understand why they are not allowed to do sleepovers.
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