This is true! According to research, stress is highly transmittable between parent and child. Parents may not be aware of this but according to studies, whenever parents are going through stress and displaying anxiety, children pick them up and they too, become stressed.
According to David Code, author of the book entitled “Kids Pick Up On Everything”, seeing parents under severe stress can actually affect the children by weakening their immune system. Studies are also suggesting that the effect of parental stress can have a negative effect on children, especially in the development of the child’s brain.
How will you know if your child is under stress too? There are signs and symptoms, and a few include headaches, trouble sleeping, and anxiety.
So what can you do if you are a parent guilty of this?
Well, first get yourself up and about. This means find a way to deal with your own stress first, and do it fast! Know that the longer you deal with your stress, the more your children will suffer.
Next, talk to your children and help them understand what you’re going through without telling them things they should not know (for reasons of age for instance – when they can not understand just yet). Assure them that you’re doing all you can to solve your problems. This will help them tremendously – they will stop worrying about you.
Then, teach them how to deal with stress. For example, tell them to get as much sunlight in the early morning. Sunbathing in the early morning helps awaken the serotonin in the body. Serotonin is known as the happy hormones. You can also exercise with them, and make it fun!
If you love your kids, pick yourself up and begin living not just for yourself but also for them. Always remember that they are looking up to you for almost everything: strength, love, nurturing, and hope.