I once came across this quotation from a book I read: The saddest words of tongue and pen are the words “if only” and “it might have been”.
Ponder these statements for a few moments …
True, isn’t it?
Yet, as normal as the sun rising every morning, I think that having regrets in life is part of living. At least by realizing that something has not gone as it should or as we would have wanted, learning has taken place.
I believe that the very essence of our lives here on this earth is for us to gain experience, to learn from these experiences, and grow. I believe that we are preparing for something better, more enduring in the life hereafter. And the choices we make today determines the quality of that life later on. For if not, what could be the essence of all our struggles? Our defeats? Our triumphs? Life is a test. It is meant to prepare us for something better and more glorious.
We have free agency – the freedom to choose between good and evil. Naturally, with each decision, each choice, are the corresponding consequences, of which we have no control over.
Most of us, I’m sure, have said these words at some point in our lives. We wish we could have chosen otherwise, like we could have done better …
One of my favorite authors John C. Maxwell said that “the difference between ordinary people and successful people is their perception of and reaction to failure”. Successful people respond proactively from failures. They learn from them and make them their stepping stone towards becoming better.
Unsuccessful people on the other hand, blame others for their failures.
So what then? Well, in a nutshell, the best thing to do is turn anything negative into positive: by learning from it and moving on to becoming better.
“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”
-Joanne Kathleen Rowling –