Facebook … It’s the “in” thing and you can be considered weird or different if you don’t have an account. It is a fact that in today’s world, many people have made Facebook a major part of their lives (or should I say, our lives?).
Think about this: the first thing people normally do after rising from their beds is turn on the computer, their iPhones, iPads, or tablets and go online to check notifications and status updates from their Fb accounts. Then, everything is left “on” the whole day, the Facebook window minimized while doing something else in the computer.
Here are some of the common things we normally find in Fb:
- What someone ate for breakfast;
- What someone had for snacks;
- What someone plans to eat for lunch, snack in the afternoon break, dinner, and for midnight snack;
- What someone is wearing;
- The latest clothes, shoes, bags, colognes and perfumes, accessories, and other what-have-you’s being sold online;
- Who recently got dumped;
- Who’s mad at who;
- Who recently died;
- Who recently got sick;
- Who’s in the hospital;
- The weather somewhere;
- The newest boyfriend or girlfriend of what’s-his/her-name;
- The best and/or worst teacher in this school and that school;
- Inspirational quotes by someone famous;
- Pictures of flowers, food, places visited, people seen;
- Who’s who (who’s with whom, who’s famous, who’s not, etc)
- Jokes (ranging from the funny, the not-so funny, and the insulting-to-my-senses-and-intellect-con-nationality types of “jokes”)
- Porn materials (such as videos that a friend “accidentally” clicked but was actually programmed that once you click it or the icon, it’ll appear in your page and announce to the world that you did, after all, checked out the material. Or maybe you did not!);
- Garbage – someone belittling someone else – an enemy perhaps, or a competitor, or a rival …;
- and Links to Blogs just like this one …
These are just some of the things you’ll see and experience in Facebook. The question remains: are these things helping us?
One author shared her thoughts on the effect or impact of Facebook on teenagers. You can visit her site and read about her thoughts in her blog called HybridMom. Her focus is on teenagers and Facebook: mine is a little towards the right – the effect of Facebook on adults.
I know of a school that has recently issued a memo that university faculty and staff are no longer allowed to use Fb during working hours. Many reacted negatively saying that Fb can be used as an instructional tool. I agree; but I have a daughter in college, and I was actually disturbed when her teacher required them to submit their assignments online, via facebook’s Notes – for everyone to see and read. My eldest daughter raised this question: has she/he (meaning the teacher) not heard of the school’s e-Learn system?
I like Fb – most of it! And I have to admit I am an avid user of Fb. I use it as a medium to share my thoughts from the things I learned while doing my researches. I keep in touch with friends and family – near or far. I enjoy looking at pictures and seeing how my friends and associates have progressed from being young and thin to older and heavier (hahaha!). Most of the time I feel good after a session in Fb; but I have to be honest, lately, I don’t like some of the things I saw and read in Fb. So I’ve decided to “hide” some people, especially those that post “negative” things – those that make my already heavy heart heavier; those who dampen spirits rather than inspire.
I have nothing against Fb, nor the people using Fb. We use this medium based on our own purposes, needs, and wants. Summing up, I’d like to refer to a comment I read in one forum on the usefulness or the dangers of using Facebook and other social networking sites. He said that if anyone finds a social networking site unhealthy or destructive or unpleasant to his personal “taste”, simply leave the site. He is correct one hundred percent. However, maybe it would also be better if people using these social sites will think hard about the moral responsibility which comes with their use – not because of fear from being reprimanded (wala ma’y internet police). Hopefully, people will be more responsible for the simple reason that “it’s the right thing to do”.